⁃ 3 of the smallest things which fulfil my heart
Motherhood in itself is magical, beautiful, messy, tiring, wonderful, weird, overwhelming, exciting and heartwarming all at the same time… on a daily basis.
Motherhood is unique to every mama and child relationship, and the beauty of this uniqueness is that it’s yours. It’s yours to keep forever – that wonderful, warm and gentle vibe of being a mother. Being their mother, their protector, their shelter, their lifeline, their everything.
You see, my daughter, Mila; she completes me. She’s made my heart grow to what seems a thousand times bigger than it was before she was here.
She’s made me a better person in so many ways and she continues to do that every day. I am better because of her. I’m kinder because of her. I’m grateful because of her. She has graced me with a love so pure and so tender, that I can only describe a fraction of it here, in Pieces of Motherly Love.
Number 1 – Sleeping Baby
So, I know sleeping babies are cute. Obviously! There’s something so stinking cute about seeing a baby sweet, sweet dreamin’.
Hold up though – but this is MY baby who is sleeping. Game changer. No one could prepare me for the hours I would spend just watching Mila sleep.
That face. Those eyelashes casting long shadows over her cheeks. Those rosebud lips, half puckered and occasionally giving dreamy half-smiles. That button nose, so cute and perfect. Those cheeks, pink and plump and so, so smooth underneath my fingertips. Those tiny little fingers, curled around her bunny comforter, or thrown up next to her head in pure abandonment.
That chest, rising and falling so steadily, with deep relaxing breaths that make her chubby little tummy jiggle oh so slightly.
Those legs, positioned like a bow, reminding me of a little frog laid on its back just floating along! And the toes – don’t even get me started on the toes because I’ve shed many a tear over Mila’s cute little podgey feet!
The utter innocence and fragility of babies is multiplied tenfold when they are sleeping. They are within their most peaceful moments and to see and observe that is just precious.
I could spend (and have spent) bags of time in the small hours of the night just watching her sleep and thanking my lucky stars for blessing me with this beautiful child.
Number 2 – Baby Giggles
Oh • Sweet • Jesus
So I covered baby smiles in a previous blogpost, and I remember writing that post with a heart so full I thought it might burst. That was because Mila had started giving me big, huge, real smiles… she was showing me that she was happy.
Baby giggles though – well, my heart may as well jump out of my chest and do it’s own victory jig before spontaneously combusting, that’s how incredibly full of love it is, when Mila giggles and laughs.
It really is something else, and once again no one could prepare me for the intense happiness I would and still do feel, from hearing my daughter giggle. I’m not just making her happy enough to do smiles anymore.. I’ve chartered into laughing territory. I mean, this awesome little person thinks I’m funny!!! I’m making her laugh!!!
Sure, I’m only blowing raspberries on her tummy and tickling her feet but seriously, before she learnt how to smile and giggle, she would give me such resting bitch face that even I started to question my own hilarity.
But now, ahhh now, my girl finds me funny. She giggles when I throw her in the air and jostle her around, when I tickle her feet and the back of her neck, when I blow raspberries on her tummy and cheeks, when I pull funny faces, make silly noises and play peek-a-boo.
Okay I’m not going to lie – 2 years ago if someone had told me that I would be making mooing, quacking, oinking and clucking sounds to an ecstatic, wild audience of one miniature human, and that I would keep going, and going, and going, just to keep hearing that same tinkly, gorgeous, make-your-ovaries-throb giggle again and again; well, I’d have choked on my wine. But… such is life. Here I am, mooing and quacking and raspberry-blowing central! Never looked back!
Number 3 – Eye Communication
Babies really do have the most beautiful eyes, it’s got to be said. Bright, wide, inquisitive eyes that take everything in so their wonderful little brains can process everything as they see it.
Most babies are born with blue eyes, which then change colour and clarity as they get older, but my darling girl was born with deep deep brown eyes, she’s now almost 5 months old and they have not changed at all.
Her eyes are something else. She has her Daddy’s eyes. Dark, chocolatey brown and they are so bright, they shine and glimmer and light up any room. They brighten up my life every day.
I look into Mila’s eyes and I see my husband. They are identical to his. Huge, almond-shaped, sparkly eyes. They say the eyes are the window to your soul and when Mila stares at me with wonderment, inquisition and love in her eyes, my feelings of adoration for her and her Daddy make me feel equal parts weak and strong.
Other mamas will experience the same I’m sure, but the feelings that envelope you when you have eye communication with your baby is completely overwhelming in the most natural sense.
Mila’s eyes are powerful in their beauty.
The best moments are when she locks eyes with me and stares at me when she is feeding. It’s almost like she is saying to me, “Thank you mama, thank you for my milk”.
Also, when she is falling asleep in my arms, her little hand clasped around my hair or my shirt, and she’s drifting off to sleep but doing long, lazy blinks as she tries to stay awake and see my face for longer. In between each blink I see those gorgeous sleepy eyes and feel full of love. It’s like she’s saying to me, “Stay with me mama, keep holding me”.
When I am talking to her, or singing to her and her gaze is fixed on me, a big smile on her face as she takes in my words. The way the corners of her eyes crinkle up when she smiles, and glisten and shimmer, it’s just everything. It’s like she’s saying to me, “You’re funny mama, keep telling me things, I’m always listening”.
Every morning when I hear her waking up, and pop my head over her Moses basket, her eyes literally light up as she begins smiling her head off! The first time she sees my face that day and it makes her so happy. It’s like she’s saying to me, “Morning mama, I haven’t seen you all night, I’m so excited that it’s morning”.
One of the best moments was just recently during 4 month sleep regression. Mila had woken around 4am and was fussing a lot in her basket next to my bed, so I ended up putting her in my bed next to me where she settled right back off to sleep.
**No mom-shaming please. On the rare occasions when I do co-sleep, it’s for the benefit of both of us and is completely safe. I will, at some point, do a post on how I safely co-sleep for anyone who is interested.**
Anyway, she settled right back off into dreamland and so did I. She woke before I did, a little after 8am. I woke up and I knew she was already awake, because her podgey little hands were poking and prodding my face. I like to call it “exploring” my face.
I kept my eyes closed for a good 10 minutes, letting her play and touch my face (and poke my eyes!)
Then she stopped, with her hand just resting on my cheek and so I thought she had fallen back to sleep.
That’s when I opened my eyes, and Mila was not asleep. Instead, she was laid on her side, facing me, with her itty bitty hand resting on my cheek, just staring at my face. And when I opened my eyes, the smile she gave me will fulfil my heart forever.
It was the biggest, gummy-est, brightest and most face-splitting smile I have ever seen. It was like she was saying to me, “I’ve been waiting for you to open your eyes mama, but I decided to let you sleep, good morning!”
The eyes are the window to your soul.
Eye communication with your baby provides you both with an understanding of each other that no one else could ever fathom.
Motherly love.
Cherish it all. Drink it in. Store it away in the most precious part of your heart and memory and relive it whenever you have a bad day.
•••Remind yourself who you’re doing it all for.•••